I’ve never felt at ease in gay circles. Some say it’s normal to feel out of place in gay communities. You don’t need to follow what most gay people do in order to be…well, gay. But “what is gay culture?”

As long as you respect other queer men and women and their right to be who they are, then all will be just fine, right? If only.

Culture defined

“Culture is a way of life of a group of people—the behaviours, beliefs, values, and symbols that they accept, generally without thinking about them, and that are passed along by communication and imitation from one generation to the next.”

Texas University

So what is ‘gay culture’?

Gay culture, as I see it, has always been a toxic and superficial brew of discrimination, prejudice, fetishism, and stereotypes based on youth, good looks and how things appear on the surface rather than what they are in reality.

Too many gay men I’ve met spend their lives being nasty to everyone, including their so-called friends and partners. Cattiness and bullying are rife on the ‘gay scene’ and in relationships, as is the hedonistic, drugs and alcohol-fuelled lifestyles many men adopt.

And don’t mention the promiscuity. The artistic output of certain gay men is about all I can stand of that way of life (or culture). Yet with all of this said, I love men with a passion. I feel no sense of self-loathing at all as a result of my homosexuality. You may beg to differ.

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mmmhmmm
mmmhmmm
March 27, 2021 8:48 pm
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The “culture” of being gay – in my opinion, has never been anything that is accurate. There shouldn’t be a “culture” to who a person chooses to have sexual relationships with. What is the culture of being “gay”? Saying ‘girl’? Watching RuPaul’s Drag Race? Loving Beyonce? I think most gay people decide to align themselves to what society perceives the “status quo” of what it is to be gay/bi (or whatever sexual preference wanting to be identified as), which is pretty negative, caused from the residuals of non-acceptance and judgment. What really annoys men who are interested in other men… Read more »

Shelton R Watson
Shelton R Watson
March 3, 2021 9:58 pm
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What you call “culture” I call a learned, defensive behavior rooted in survival techniques. And if it is learned it can be unlearned. Don’t mistake prevalent social behavior as culture.

Brotha ToDa Night
Brotha ToDa Night
February 1, 2021 9:20 pm
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AMEN!!! I 100% agree. I despise it and it is a toxic lifestyle. I may be a homosexual and an androphile but I am definitely not gay. GAY is not sexuality it is a horrific, degrading, and destructive lifestyle of bigotry, racism, and separatism.